About Health & Workplace Bullying Work
it is hard to admit that you are stressed, depressed or
just suffering from bullying. And when you do decide to
admit it, you may have reservations about telling people
or taking medication. Here is some important information
on what you may experience and what work issues you may
need to know about. You may also wish to check out the
'Experiences' section in jfo:i.
and the Health System
people may attempt to cope with depression by abusing drink,
either regular drinking or 'binge' drinking, or drugs.
Although considered self-medicating, alcohol is a depressant
itself and initially it may help you forget things, but
it will only make your mood lower later. Drinking does
not make the underlying issue go away so any respite through
drink is only temporary. Some doctors may overlook that
this is a coping strategy for depression and instead
may use it to explain why you are depressed.
may feel that you are admitting that you are weak - although
some people are more at risk than others (such are inherited
risk or early childhood trauma), this just means that you
have a slightly greater chance of suffering, just as you
would if you had a history of breast cancer in your family.
It does NOT mean that you are weak, whatever your risk.
What is sometimes overlooked or forgotten is that without
the experience of workplace bullying, most victims would
NOT succumb to depression.
for depression can be very effective and can take two forms, medication and
talking treatment. Your doctor may advise one or the other,
or more commonly, especially for those who have suffered
from workplace bullying, both.
not underestimate how ill you may be. If you are depressed,
you may not be able to accurately establish how bad the
depression is or you may be in denial, whether consciously
or not. Be honest with your doctor. And if you have had
any suicidal thoughts, please tell someone. If you cannot
tell someone you know, then call or email an organisation
like the Samaritans. 15% of people with a Major Depressive
Episode die from suicide - please don't be one of them.
sure that you let your doctor know what stressors you feel
have contributed to or caused your depression. Do not be
afraid to admit to your doctor that you are being bullied.
Although you may initially think that it only happens in
school playgrounds, it does not so you are not childish
for complaining of being bullied or by admitting you are
unable to sort it out - bullying is not a normal situation
that you can deal with in any normal way. In the long-term,
you will be glad you did as some victims have problems
legally if they were unable to admit to being bullied,
as an adult being unable to sort an issue out at work that
they normally would be able to or that they cannot cope
at work. Workplace bullying is not a normal situation and
the affect on you is very real.
response for you to say to those who tell you to 'draw
a line under it and move on': 'OK, I will - just tell me
how?' Those who have a response that is so devoid of empathy,
understanding, knowledge and experience will not be able
to answer it and show themselves for what they are. If
you hear this response or similar, stay away - they are
bad for your health and if they are a 'professional', then
they clearly are not.
your doctor does not appear to help you, listen or appear
sympathetic either to depression or workplace bullying,
change them if you can. This also applies to psychiatrists
if you have one. If you have specific complaints about
their care, put it in writing. If you feel that the diagnosis
is wrong, ask for a second opinion - every patient has
a right to have a second opinion. Try not to accept the
situation or think that things will improve, they rarely
do. By not changing your doctor or delaying it, your health
will suffer for longer unnecessarily and you may
also harm your legal case, should the medical opinion or
case notes be wrong. Don't forget, doctors don't know everything
- and they certainly do not know you more that you know
yourself. You know how you are suffering, it is real -
sometimes they do get it wrong.
may suffer from either a misdiagnosis or feeling that you
are not being diagnosed with what you think you are suffering
from. You may feel that your symptoms match that of PTSD
but are told that bullying cannot cause PTSD. Sometimes,
the communication of the message that you do not have PTSD
can do more damage. This is because some doctors do not
take the time to explain that it is merely the criteria,
currently set down in DSM-IV, that you do not meet - and
in the process fail to validate your symptoms and feelings.
The criteria of PTSD and other diagnoses has changed over
time and will continue to do so. Read more about trauma
and ask your doctor to consider some of the alternatives
that you may meet the criteria for, as your symptoms and
feelings are very real.
this area interests you, you may wish to take a look at
the Experiences section.